If we were having coffee right now, I would ask you one question: “How do you make friends?”
Don’t laugh! It may sound silly to you but it has been bothering me from the past few days.
Since you are a blogger I assume you spend time writing when you could have gone out with your friends. I assume that you like writing compared to speaking and I assume you are an introvert or an ambivert.
Why I have asked this question about making friends is, I’m an introvert. I worked for several years in a corporate company. I travelled several places. All the while I had only a few friends. I spend most of the time reading books, writing or enjoying my solitude. I make acquaintances quickly but it will take a lot of time for me to turn that acquaintance into friendship. I feel uncomfortable in parties and end up sticking to one to two people throughout the party. However, I spent my entire life with this nature without any major problems . Infact, I was proud that I was an introvert when I read the book “Quiet” by Susan Cain. I was elated to know the virtues of being an introvert..
But, lately I have been trying to challenge my introvert nature because of my daughter. When my daughter started going to a new school, she lacked friends. Most of her classmates Moms were already well acquainted and I was out of that social circle. They all celebrated festivals together, went on trips together and made their children participate in the school events together. I thought that my daughter will make new friends, but that didn’t happen. Most of my daughter’s classmates had their own group of friends to play with and my daughter was left out. I felt guilty for this. If only I had socialized, if only I had made friendship with the Moms of other children, my daughter wouldn’t have been playing alone now. Sometimes, I want to hold a board which reads “ My daughter needs friends”! I became so desperate.
As I struggle to look positive aspect of this situation, I see that my daughter spends more time in reading books. She reads better than most of her classmates. She does rock climbing, swimming and has better general awareness compared to kids of her age. But in the end, I still want my daughter to have a social life. I want her to mingle with other children and be apart of a group.
Now, to help my daughter make friends, I am struggling to shed my introvert nature. I am trying hard to make small talk with other parents. I’m even planning to host a party inviting mom’s of her classmates so that I can bond with them. If you are a person who enjoys solitude, you will understand how difficult it is to do all these things. That’s brings back to my original question “How do you make friends?”.
Dear blogger, did you ever face such issue? If you are an introvert, did you face any problems? Are you trying to overcome your introvert nature?